The Unspoken Parts of Being a Counsellor

This is about the moments of drifting, the internal conflict, and the awareness that connection can shift, both within myself and, at times, within the relationships I hold with those I work with.

Dear Soul,

I miss you when you’re lost.

Sometimes, along the way, I drift. I can become distant and lose sight of what truly lights you up, what gives you meaning, energy, and purpose. Life can feel heavier, more complicated than usual, and in trying to navigate it all, I can lose connection with you.

In the midst of big life moments and shifting demands, I have at times found myself moving into survival, pulled away from the steadiness and presence this work asks of me.

And yet, I have always been drawn back.

Because this work matters.

Connecting with clients—past, present, and those I have yet to meet—hearing your stories, holding your worries and your pain—this work feeds something essential within me. It reminds me that I, too, am simply a fellow traveller, a comrade in this shared human experience. There is purpose in that connection, and healing in it too.

And still, at times, with change, there can be moments of disconnection. A sense of grief. A quiet loss.

And then, slowly, something begins to return.

The memory of what lights me up comes back—and with it, a deep knowing. A reminder of how much this work matters. How much connection matters. How much being present, truly present, matters.

I notice how much I value this work. The relationships within it. The sense of alignment it brings.

And so, I return.

I take the time to remember what this means, what it once was, and what it continues to be. I honour how important this is—to me, to you, and to all those I work with.

And I am here.

So rest assured that when things drift, I notice, I care, and I take the time to find my way back.

Yours,
Hayley O’Seachnasaigh

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